While I’m stuck here searching for the love of my life, stronger women are out there changing the world.
This is something I thought about just today after watching The Help starring Emma Stone, Viola Davis and Octavia Spencer.
Emma Stone plays Skeeter Phelan, an aspiring journalist and novelist who helped two maids get their voices out about working for white families. She was brave, she didn’t care if the man she loved would leave her for her beliefs. She didn’t follow him when he left either. She was strong, she was selfless. She was a heroine.
This story was based on true experiences. I’m glad I decided to watch The Help even though I was a little off because of the troubles I encountered with my relationships.
After the movie ended, I realized that it was never between you and what you can get out of the world; but it’s between you and what you can give back to the world. This life isn’t meaningful at all when we all live for only ourselves. I can testify to that because I never felt even more alone. I was working to live, to breathe, to pursue my ambition. A good career may get you through the rainy days, but not all of it.
The friends that I make in this lifetime matter. But once you start to let go of pleasing them all the time, you feel free. The obligations are there but they are the kinds of obligations that should be voluntarily given. Like attention, love, presence and sympathy. Once they’re given and they’re still not enough, maybe it’s time we put in some understanding that we must let our friends figure it out alone. Not because we are selfish, but because we believe that they can.
Skeeter, Aibileen and Minny; they inspired me very much. That no color, social status or differences can stop them from working together to change how we see the world. :)
